Thursday, August 20, 2009
Sunday, August 9, 2009
He's not Right for You
"Pheremones don't change. This guy is going to have this funky scent until he's 90-and then probably much worse. This is not the guy for you. don't feel bad: To some other lady, the man smells like roses." ~ Glamour Magazine
Weekend Adventures...
This has been one crazy, fun weekend. I believe, after the week that I have had, that it was a well deserved weekend!
Friday night, Britt, Mer and I made our way down to the 'boro to hang out with Anthony and a few of his friends. It was a night of Dominoes, Random Phone Calls, The "Coolest" of People, and Late Roadtrips to the "DC." It all equaled innocent fun. I sort of felt as though I was still in highschool, which is honestly kind of nice sometimes.
Actually, my life has sort of felt like highschool lately. There is all of this drama surrounding me and I sort of feel a little choked by it at times. Some of the drama surrounding me is caused by some of my life choices, however, most of it is surrounding the people that I love. I always thought that once you got out of highschool, that the drama would sort of vanish? I believe, actually, I know that I was wrong. The drama doesn't go anywhere, it just changes gears. Now, instead of girlfriends cheating on boyfriends, boyfriends cheating on girlfriends, and friendship fueds you have wives cheating on husbands, husbands cheating on wives and work fueds. I can honestly say, that I am close to being completely over ever wanting to get married.
I honestly had this belief, faith I guess you can say, that there is this one person out there that is shaped to mold you perfectly like your matching puzzle piece. However, there are all of these other people out there that almost mold to you, but don't quit fit. I think that if we hold out long enough, then we can find that one "perfect" shaped puzzle piece that will mold to you completely. And by perfect, I do not mean the perfect man, rather the perfect man for you.
I decided to read the book, "His Needs, Her Needs: An Affair Proof Marriage." I know that I am nowhere near walking down the isle anytime soon, however, I do not think it is limited to those betrothed. The book enfuriates me and i am not sure that it is supposed to. However, it is written by a man, so in my opinion it is one-sided. The chapter that really sticks out in my mind is called: He needs an attractive wife. I completely agree with a woman dressing to look her best, wearing makeup to improve her natural beauty vs. covering it up, and a beautiful hair style. However, I do not believe that the man should tell the woman how to dress, or cut her hair. She should take into consideration what he would like, b/c afterall, he is the one you are trying to look good for. I believe that it is important to look your best for the man you are with, I think it is a reflection on him, you and your relationship.
I am a single woman, living in a larger city. I did not move here to "find" love like most single women who move to the city. However, after moving here, I have realized that I am ready for "love," whatever it is. I keep finding myself with men that have been previously claimed, or men with some sort of baggage. I don't seek out these men, I promise you! However, I am starting to think that I must have some sort of magnet that draws them into me, because that is all I seem to find. I have this slight attraction to this guy that we recently started hanging out with and sometimes I think there might be a little something there. However, b/c of his forehead stamp that reads "Previously Claimed" I can never act on that slight attraction, even though the previous claimer is now married. It just doesn't seem fair. I think that married women should have to revoke their rights to previous men they were involved with, afterall, they are with the man they decided was special enough to marry.
I did not mean for this post to turn into what it did, so now I will step off of my step ladder and relax. I think I needed to get all of that off of my chest.
Friday night, Britt, Mer and I made our way down to the 'boro to hang out with Anthony and a few of his friends. It was a night of Dominoes, Random Phone Calls, The "Coolest" of People, and Late Roadtrips to the "DC." It all equaled innocent fun. I sort of felt as though I was still in highschool, which is honestly kind of nice sometimes.
Actually, my life has sort of felt like highschool lately. There is all of this drama surrounding me and I sort of feel a little choked by it at times. Some of the drama surrounding me is caused by some of my life choices, however, most of it is surrounding the people that I love. I always thought that once you got out of highschool, that the drama would sort of vanish? I believe, actually, I know that I was wrong. The drama doesn't go anywhere, it just changes gears. Now, instead of girlfriends cheating on boyfriends, boyfriends cheating on girlfriends, and friendship fueds you have wives cheating on husbands, husbands cheating on wives and work fueds. I can honestly say, that I am close to being completely over ever wanting to get married.
I honestly had this belief, faith I guess you can say, that there is this one person out there that is shaped to mold you perfectly like your matching puzzle piece. However, there are all of these other people out there that almost mold to you, but don't quit fit. I think that if we hold out long enough, then we can find that one "perfect" shaped puzzle piece that will mold to you completely. And by perfect, I do not mean the perfect man, rather the perfect man for you.
I decided to read the book, "His Needs, Her Needs: An Affair Proof Marriage." I know that I am nowhere near walking down the isle anytime soon, however, I do not think it is limited to those betrothed. The book enfuriates me and i am not sure that it is supposed to. However, it is written by a man, so in my opinion it is one-sided. The chapter that really sticks out in my mind is called: He needs an attractive wife. I completely agree with a woman dressing to look her best, wearing makeup to improve her natural beauty vs. covering it up, and a beautiful hair style. However, I do not believe that the man should tell the woman how to dress, or cut her hair. She should take into consideration what he would like, b/c afterall, he is the one you are trying to look good for. I believe that it is important to look your best for the man you are with, I think it is a reflection on him, you and your relationship.
I am a single woman, living in a larger city. I did not move here to "find" love like most single women who move to the city. However, after moving here, I have realized that I am ready for "love," whatever it is. I keep finding myself with men that have been previously claimed, or men with some sort of baggage. I don't seek out these men, I promise you! However, I am starting to think that I must have some sort of magnet that draws them into me, because that is all I seem to find. I have this slight attraction to this guy that we recently started hanging out with and sometimes I think there might be a little something there. However, b/c of his forehead stamp that reads "Previously Claimed" I can never act on that slight attraction, even though the previous claimer is now married. It just doesn't seem fair. I think that married women should have to revoke their rights to previous men they were involved with, afterall, they are with the man they decided was special enough to marry.
I did not mean for this post to turn into what it did, so now I will step off of my step ladder and relax. I think I needed to get all of that off of my chest.
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Worms
Somehow I managed to open up a can of worms last night! It sort of looks like I might have to make a road trip to Mississippi for the day, one day soon, to visit an old friend! The things you do and say when you are having too much fun!
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
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